Why Do I Have Pain During Sex?

Here’s a definition:

Feeling pain AND having difficulty to perform intercourse is known as “Vaginismus

The act feels like hitting a wall to some, and tremendous pain and frustration to others.

If you have pain during sex, you may have a condition called vaginismus:  

  • All Stress and No Success in the Bedroom

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Coitus (click to see definition) sexual activity involving penis in vagina
should be a pleasurable experience enjoyed by couples.

But what happens if we can’t enjoy it? 


Instead, there’s only pain and difficulty when it comes to penetration. 

We may feel frustrated and guilty that we could not enjoy coitus like any other couple. 

And the worst thing is you do not know what to do about it. You have tried to Google it or have seen a doctor or three, but none of it really helped to achieve success in the bedroom yet. 

  • Gynae Checkup is one of Your Worst Fears in Life

A gynae visit is so dreaded, vaginismus women tend to avoid it for as long as one can.

During gynaecological examinations, there could be tremendous difficulty and pain. For example during a pap smear or even something as basic as inserting a finger.

It causes heightened anxiety and fear, especially when it comes to penetration or insertion.

 

  • Touching yourself without fear or shame

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In severe cases, vaginismus women may find it unable to touch themselves in the pelvic area without tensing up, fear, pain or feeling overwhelmingly uncomfortable.

Often, these women might have never really looked at their own vagina their whole life or since puberty.

The aversion is due to many societal, religious, and educational (and the lack of) reasons in their upbringing and culture. 

  • Unable to Get Pregnant naturally

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This is perhaps the most frustrating and pressurising issue for a lot of women who want to become mothers, or for couples who want to become parents. 

Vaginismus often makes it impossible even when both partners are 100% fertile and healthy otherwise.

For those who can’t afford fertility procedures such as IVF (in-vitro fertilisation), the pressure to get pregnant makes vaginismus symptoms even more severe due to mental pressures piling on.

Even after a successful IVF and childbirth, a sex-less marital relationship can still feel a lot like unconsummated and incomplete to many individuals and couples.

It can break relationships when it remains unresolved.

This is especially true in Malaysia as our law and religions allow legal nullification of a marriage or allow for polygamy when we are unable to consummate a marriage with sex.

So, Can Vaginismus be Cured Permanently?

After talking and consulting with over hundreds of vaginismus women and couples, we understand the issues deeply, and no vaginismus case is ever the same

Although the symptoms can be similar among women — which often leads to one-size-fit-all treatments by most practitioners, but the triggers, the physical body, the root cause and the circumstances affect vaginismus individuals and their partners very differently. 

The good news is, it can be cured permanently, IF we deal with the physical and psychological aspects as a whole.

To deal with the complex aspects of vaginismus, the Vaginismus Essential Plan proves to be practically successful in consistently helping women to achieve their first ever penetration within sessions, with an impressive 80%* success rate. 

*Note: 80% of the women who go through the treatment managed to achieve their first penetration, making intercourse possible. The remaining 20% dropped out of the treatment plan due to various personal factors including lack of motivation, lack of partner support and/or  personal financial reasons.

Perhaps more importantly than achieving penetration alone, many women who followed the treatment plan have successfully had painless intercourse, became pregnant, and discovered exciting aspects in their relationships which used to be impossible due to the affliction.   

Learn more about Vaginismus and How Vaginismus Essential Plan works from our AASECT-trained Sexologist

50 women & couples surveyed who successfully overcame vaginismus after undergoing the Vaginismus Essential Plan would highly recommend it to fellow vaginismus women. 

To learn more, visit https://vibrance.com.my/vaginismus/  

Consult with our certified therapists about the treatment options and how vaginismus doesn’t have to end up with expensive IVF attempts, an almost certain C-section childbirth and the ever-looming unconsummated relationships.

You can be liberated and take back control from vaginismus just by understanding it better than before, from credible, professional sources.

Learn more about Vaginismus and How Vaginismus Essential Plan works from our AASECT-trained Sexologist

50 women & couples surveyed who successfully overcame vaginismus after undergoing the Vaginismus Essential Plan would highly recommend it to fellow vaginismus women. 

To learn more, JOIN the “Oh Yes, No Pain!” Webinar. 

Hear from our certified therapists about the treatment options and how vaginismus doesn’t have to end up with expensive IVF attempts, an almost certain C-section childbirth and the ever-looming unconsummated relationships.

You can be liberated and take back control from vaginismus just by understanding it better than before, from credible, professional sources.

To book a pelvic consultation, click here. To learn more about the award winning home use pelvic training device, Vibrance Pelvic Trainer, click here. To learn more about the clinically proven holistic pelvic strengthening program, Pelvic360, click here.
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